"You become a parent the moment you get pregnant." - Jesga
The first time I even journaled about my pregnancy was at 14th week of the pregnancy. I didn't want to emotionally invest in the baby any more than I already was due to the fear of miscarriage. It had taken us awhile to get pregnant in the first place and I didn't want to get my hopes up. The first trimester was a mix of extreme emotions - excitement and fear.
Now that I'm half way over with my pregnancy, I still worry about the baby. Am I giving enough nutrients to the baby? Will the baby be healthy? I'm not paralyzed by anxiety but I'm already beginning to understand why parents, especially mothers, say that they are always concerned and worried for their kids.
Poor Erik has had to hear about all the little aches and discomforts of my pregnancy thus far. From nausea to not being able bend over the sink to wash my face. I wanted to share as much of the pregnancy experience with him as possible but I also just love to complain. Then a few weeks ago, he finally told me that my pregnancy is not so bad, just normal so I should be more thankful. Of course I could just chuck this up to him being male and having no clue as to what I'm going through, but I reminded myself that this is one of the reasons why I married him. Because he didn't cater to me but had the balls to admonish and correct me when I need it. And I am aware of my tendency to wallow in self-pity and relish in complaining. So that's what I'm working on these days - having a thankful attitude. I wish I was a grateful person naturally, but it takes work.
The first time I even journaled about my pregnancy was at 14th week of the pregnancy. I didn't want to emotionally invest in the baby any more than I already was due to the fear of miscarriage. It had taken us awhile to get pregnant in the first place and I didn't want to get my hopes up. The first trimester was a mix of extreme emotions - excitement and fear.
Now that I'm half way over with my pregnancy, I still worry about the baby. Am I giving enough nutrients to the baby? Will the baby be healthy? I'm not paralyzed by anxiety but I'm already beginning to understand why parents, especially mothers, say that they are always concerned and worried for their kids.
Poor Erik has had to hear about all the little aches and discomforts of my pregnancy thus far. From nausea to not being able bend over the sink to wash my face. I wanted to share as much of the pregnancy experience with him as possible but I also just love to complain. Then a few weeks ago, he finally told me that my pregnancy is not so bad, just normal so I should be more thankful. Of course I could just chuck this up to him being male and having no clue as to what I'm going through, but I reminded myself that this is one of the reasons why I married him. Because he didn't cater to me but had the balls to admonish and correct me when I need it. And I am aware of my tendency to wallow in self-pity and relish in complaining. So that's what I'm working on these days - having a thankful attitude. I wish I was a grateful person naturally, but it takes work.
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